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FlyBy Promotions Review: The Marriage You’ve Always Wanted by Gary Chapman #grow4christ #giveaway

on February 14, 2014

About the Book:

You can picture the perfect marriage in your mind, but re-creating it in reality doesn’t come easy. Trusted counselor and relationship expert Dr. Gary Chapman reasons that the most sought-after ingredient in any marriage is true oneness. In The Marriage You’ve Always Wanted, he presents expert wisdom and common sense methods to establishing that true unity on emotional and practical levels. Discover the wit and insight that makes his worldwide presentations and marriage conferences so popular. Are you trying to change your spouse? Do you know what it means to really love someone? Do you feel ignored or even alone in your effort to improve your marriage? Dr. Chapman has answers and action steps on topics from expressing your emotions to managing your money, all in a format that will have you and your spouse talking and learning with every page.

You can find out more at the official website for the book.

About the Author: 

As anyone who has attended one of his marriage conferences knows, Dr. Gary Chapman’s expertise in marriage begins with the success and failures he and his wife Karolyn have experienced in their marriage for more than 45 years. He is just the man to turn to for help on improving or healing our most important relationships. His own life experiences, plus over thirty-five years of pastoring and marriage counseling, led him to publish his first book in the Love Language series, The Five Love Languages: How to Express Heartfelt Commitment to Your Mate. Many of the millions of readers credit this continual New York Times bestseller with saving their marriages by showing them simple and practical ways to communicate love.
Since the success of his first book, Dr. Chapman has expanded his Five Love Languages series with special editions that reach out specifically to singles, men, and parents of teens and young children.
He is the author of numerous other books published by Moody Publishers/Northfield Publishing, including Anger, The Family You’ve Always Wanted, The Marriage You’ve Always Wanted, Desperate Marriages, God Speaks Your Love Language, How to Really Love Your Adult Child, and Hope for the Separated. With Dr. Jennifer Thomas, he co-authored The Five Languages of Apology.
Dr. Chapman speaks to thousands of couples nationwide through his weekend marriage conferences. He hosts a nationally syndicated radio program, A Love Language Minute, and a Saturday morning program, Building Relationships with Dr. Gary Chapman, both airing on more than 400 stations. Dr. Chapman and his wife have two grown children and currently live in Winston-Salem, North Carolina, where he serves as senior associate pastor at Calvary Baptist Church.
Dr. Chapman holds BA and MA degrees in anthropology from Wheaton College and Wake Forest University, respectively, MRE and PhD degrees from Southwestern Baptist Theological Seminary, and has completed postgraduate work at the University of North Carolina and Duke University.



My Opinion:



I’ve had the pleasure of reading other of Gary Chapman books, such as The Five Love Languages of Children, and more – do a quick search of my blog for his name and more will pop up – and am always finding things to put to use in real life.  This book The Marriage You’ve Always Wanted is no different – useful ideas to put into work in your marriage to make it better, because lets face it, most of our marriages can use work.  At 143 pages this book is a quick read and just in time if you celebrate Valentines Day (we don’t) and only 9 chapters if you don’t read the introduction, epilogue, notes, and resources.  One thing the Lord gave us all was the ability to get married, but not everyone today feels it’s the till death do us part that it was made to be and there in lies the issue, we decide we’re no longer in love so it’s time for a divorce.



What if, you discovered love isn’t all about how you feel but rather how you live?  Gary addresses the issue, “well my spouse doesn’t want to change – they still ignore me, aren’t a Christian, etc” and says that while this is hard it isn’t us who need to change our spouses, only the Lord can do that – we have to make the decision to let the Lord change us, we are the only ones we can be resposnible for.  Is it fun or wonderful to live in a one sided marriage?  No.  However, Gary wants both spouses to read this book and partake together in the learning and growing both as people, as spouses and in the marriage that God so wants to bless.



Gary Chapman addresses why people marry – it’s way different from what the world thinks marriage is for, why spouses/people don’t change, what is love, listening, role divisions, making decisions, marital relations, how to leave and still honor parents as well as money.  I think the only thing I disagreed on in the whole book was his take on birth control and concern of overpopulation, but I don’t want to toss the whole book because of one area – the rest of the book has very valuable ideas and helps including the “Your Turn” at the end of each chapter which will allow spouses to see where their expectations are and how they can change them. Overall, this is a valuable book – whether you’re newlyweds, veterans or on the brink of divorce but want to restore your marriage, this book has something for everyone!



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